I realise how fragile human relationships can be when I spoke to my gal's mom yesterday. She has been separated from her husband for 3 years , has 2 kids , 1 aged 11 and another aged 5 . Husband lives with them despite the separation. The reason for their separation was because of china women. the husband apparantly who is a 1st class honours graduate from NUS Science faculty has been fooling around with China women and has even gotten 1 of them pregnant. The wife who has as you know now discovered all his affairs went into rage and panic. She knows that the husband is leaving her but because she hasnt had sufficient education , she is afraid of life after divorce so like most wives in s'pore would do , for the sake of the kids , she tries to hold the family together . At the same time, she tries and discover an alternative way out should divorce occurs. She wants custody of the kids as she cant trust the china woman with the kids .When she spoke to me, I could tell that she was on the edge of a mental breakdown , very stressed emotionally and mentally. Because of the relationship between the parents , the kids are also somewhat affected. My gal , she feels like she has been deprived of family love, She is also somewhat distracted because of thoughts that her family doesnt love her. Her sister somehow senses that and seeks attention from everyone. This action seems to be one in which she tries to make herself seen and be valuable so that her parents will want her. This made me compare this situation to a similar situation that happened in my family . The relationship between humans is so fragile. Just one look from a pretty woman and a man can forsake his family and kids . You just never know when yur boyfriend is leaving you for another woman or when your husband is gonna forsake the family for another lady.1 moment you are friends or lovers or even both and another moment , maybe a few months or years down the road , you are enemies . Whats even worse is that once a relationship is destroyed , it is not the 2 main party thats injured emotionally , the kids and the people around them feel the emotional hurt too.There's so many consequences . It can just puts one off relationships but as humans in this world , to survive , we have to depend on one another and this means that we have to have relationship , platonic or otherwise to do so . We cannot avoid these consequences. The only thing we can do is just wait for them to happen and try to solve the problems that arise from such situations. In the meantime , while we wait for this 'timebomb' to explode , we can only cherish the people around us and the time we spend with them because we never know which one of them would leave us or even worse , love us and leave us.